Dating Tips and Advice 16: No wonder you get lonely.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ No wonder you get lonely. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
No wonder you get lonely. There are billions of people out there in the world, but how many of them do you care about? How many do you take time to get to know? For how many would you make an effort?
Do you have a 'terrible secret' that you hide from everyone? Do you not know that everyone else is hiding the same secret? The secret may take many forms, but it really just means that you need other people. The secret is out. The simple truth is we all need each other.
No wonder you get lonely. Do you criticize and condemn yourself when you have ‘failed’ in your attempts to love? Do you not know that the angels applaud you for every single one of those attempts? Do you not know that the light of your soul shines brighter at those times?
Do you insist that love must take a certain shape, come to you in a particular package and behave in very specific ways? But is it love, or your assumptions about love, that brings meaning to your life? Perhaps greater acceptance and a willingness to learn would be wise. Love is a teacher from which even the angels learn.
No wonder you get lonely. Have you decided ‘they’ are not worth it? Have you become afraid, angry, or bitter? Do you hide yourself behind a wall? If you must live behind a wall, then at least put in a window and a door.
Do you believe it is you who is not worth it? Have you felt rejected, dejected, abandoned and alone? It is not your fault that these things come to you. You have done nothing to deserve them, it is just the state of the world at this time.
No wonder you get lonely. How often do you really listen to someone? How often do you really take time to understand how they feel? How often do you let someone know that they matter to you – in a way that is meaningful to them - without expecting something back? Does a restless voice of ‘me, me, me’ stop you really hearing what other people have to say? Give people the gift of your undivided attention and they will notice and respond. Don’t be surprised when some of them respond by really listening to you.
Do you hang on to people and situations that hurt you? Love is many things, but it is not stupid. It knows that there are times and seasons and it embraces the winter as easily as the summer. Sometimes the most loving thing is to let go, or to walk away.
No wonder you get lonely. Do you reject people who don’t behave in the way you think they should? If they are not hurting anyone why are you troubled by them? Perhaps it is yourself that needs to change.
Perhaps you have you abandoned yourself. Do you shut the door on the small child that lives in your heart and then wonder why it cries? Perhaps your greatest pain is from the parts of yourself that you have rejected and which you avoid.
Are you a friend to yourself and care for the wounds that you have suffered? Sometimes we push away thoughts and feelings we believe we should not have. But, they call to us all the same.
No wonder you get lonely. Are you so lost in rescuing others that you don’t know who you are? Are you losing yourself in doing good rather than finding yourself in being good? Do you allow yourself to be good even at times when it takes courage to present your truth?
Are you afraid that you will be found out? That you will be exposed and shamed? Many people hide behind masks of different kinds. Not daring to show their selves to anyone, sometimes not even to themselves. It takes courage to reveal yourself, wisdom to know when the time is right, and skill to do it an appropriate way. We need to reveal what we want to heal.
Have you not noticed that the world needs love? Is that not a clue as to why you are here? Consider this. Perhaps your work, your real work, is to bring love to where it is needed. You have volunteered for a very difficult mission. Will you play your part? What else is there to do?
